Once you have a ring on your left hand, it’s hard to focus on much else. Let’s be real, ladies. All you want to do is stare at it, waive it in people’s faces, or make wedding plans (which also involves a lot of staring at the ring).
Let’s not forget what you actually are at the moment—engaged. The engagement is just as fun as the dating and the wedding.
“[Being engaged] gives you endorphins. Endorphins make people happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.” From Legally Blonde… sort of.
Being engaged should make you happy. Don’t focus all your energy into stressing out about caterers and seating charts. Take some time to really focus on your engagement. Here are my three to-dos.
- Engagement Photos. Take some photos with your fiancé, even if they aren’t formal. By this I mean take some cutesy shots of, “reasons we’re getting married” or “things I love about you”… or even “things I’ll never change about you”. You can make the pictures for that last one funny and serious, so things you really love or things that may get under your skin but you accept!
- Weekly Date Night. It doesn’t have to be weekly, but make an effort to go out just the two of you (or even with friends) and lock down the hatches. Meaning no wedding chatter. Focus on the engagement. Remember why you’re getting married. If all you ever do is go out and talk about how many people you’re having in the wedding party, or bickering over attire, it’s not going to be smooth sailing.
- Enjoy the right now. This is why you read the first two. Remember to be happy with the right now. Enjoy the time that is leading up to your nuptials. Enjoy solo time with friends. Having your own place. Enjoy things that are inevitably going to change. Even if that change is for the better, it’s still change. Life shouldn’t always be about “the next step”.
Emily
