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So you’ve been with him for what seems like forever. We get it. You’re anxious. You know he’s the one. You know he knows you’re the one. So what the heck is he waiting for?

Sadly, we may never know what goes on in a guys head. And it can definitely be killer when you know he wants to marry you, and probably soon, but you just don’t know when.

But trust us. You don’t want to be that girl. You know. The girl who whines about why he hasn’t proposed yet. The girl who makes slight jabs in front of friends about what’s taking him so long.  And of course, the girl who cries and cries about how long she has to wait.

Please. Don’t be that girl. It may be hard, but we have you covered on ways to avoid the over-obsessing.

1) Make it a point to never mention being anxious to friends.
Sure, your friends may bring it up and ask, “So Julie, why hasn’t Kevin popped the big Q yet?” But if you give in to those inquiries, you’ll drive yourself mad. Instead of replying, “Oh my gosh I have no idea what’s taking him so long!” try to redirect the question or just exude indifference. Answers like, “I’m sure he will when the time is right” or “I don’t know. I guess that’s why they call it a surprise” also work. When you act as if you don’t care, you’ll feel less stressed about it.

2) Don’t bug him about it.
If you keep nagging him about when’s he going to propose, you may stress the poor boy out so much that he won’t know what  to do with himself. Or he may even get angry and not want to propose just because he thinks you’re acting like a brat. If you MUST complain about what’s taking your fella, then pick ONE person like a sister, mother or maybe your closest friend who doesn’t blab to people. But if you don’t bug him, then he won’t be bugged by you. And if he’s not bugged by you, chances are you guys are living harmoniously in a stress-free zone and you’ll hardly notice he hasn’t proposed yet.

3) Don’t plan the wedding yet
Sure, that bridal show sounds awesome. But do you really want to walk around a million bridezillas and talk to vendors who will all ask you the same thing: When’s the date? Well, if you don’t have a date or a ring, it can get rather depressing. Trust me. I made this mistake. It’s probably best not to go to bridal shows until after he puts a ring on it.

4) Live in the moment
Don’t wish your life away. Enjoy your dating life while you can. Maybe you’re anxious because you’re not doing anything new as a couple and you feel like being engaged is just the next step. Well, even if it is, obsessing won’t do any good, so why not try to go out and do something new? Try a new class or activity together. Go on a picnic. Enjoy being together now instead of burning a hole in the back of his head while he plays Xbox as you try to send telepathic messages about how you want a princess cut instead. Not only is it a distraction, but it’ll bring you closer together as a couple.

What do you do to keep yourself from over-obsessing?
Nikki