I came across a topic in a forum about a guy who says he’s happily married to his wife but still occasionally thinks about what his life would be like if he married his high school sweetheart. The guy goes on to say that his high school sweetheart was his first love and that a part of him is still in love with her.

I’m sure everyone has these thoughts every now and then: “I wonder what things will be like if I married ______.” But the problem with thoughts like these, and one that people might not realize, is that they’re latching on to a past that doesn’t exist. Sure your high school sweetheart meant the world to you then, but who knows how that relationship would have turned out in the present — probably a disaster.

What couples need to realize is how important living in the present is, and keeping a positive outlook on the future is a great way to enter a marriage. And I would question a person who looks too fondly on their past. Perhaps they’re not ready to move on, to grow up and make maturer steps in their life. It’s all about learning, growing. What seems like mistakes now actually turn out to be major life improving choices. So, even though I would feel incredibly cautious toward anyone having second thoughts while approaching the alter, having a positive outlook is a good way to look at the situation. Join in on the discussion on our Facebook.