When you have two people who are open and willing to settle down and commit, when they break that bind it can be awfully hard to mend. That’s why on again/off again engagements are a rare case; one that seems to be treated with a raised eyebrow. People tend to advert their eyes and think, “OK, if they want to work it out, then so be it,” but what they’re really thinking is how the couple’s marriage is over before it even begins.

I started thinking more about this when I saw an article in Star about Transformers star Megan Fox and her former fiance Brian Austin Green. The two, who broke off their engagement in February 2009, are apparently renting a beach side home together to rekindle their waning romance. Is it a lost cause or should we encourage these couples? “Don’t give up, you can do it!”

But then I think of couples like drummer Travis Barker and his ex-wife Shanna Moakler who recently split again after reuniting after their divorce. Some couples are just pure toxic. They’re bad for each other and yet they keep diving head first into the toxic sludge thinking this time their hair won’t fall out (weird example, I know). The optimist in me wishes both Fox and Green good luck in their relationship endeavors, but the pessimist in me is mumbling, “Why bother?”