3 Tips to Get Him to Propose Without Making Him Feel Pressured


You’re ready to take the next step in your relationship and you can see the bright shining diamond ring at the end of what has seemed like the longest waiting period (ever) but you don’t want to make your guy feel uncomfortable. Or pressured. Your proposal is something you’ll never forget, and hopefully, something he can’t wait to plan – just to see your whole face light up. How do you drop the hint without dropping a bomb on your guy?

Here are some unobtrusive, simple and sweet ways to get him to propose by the end of the year (yes, it can be done!):

Talk About It Without Pausing

Seems easy enough, right? Imbedding marriage talk into your everyday conversations will help get him to think of tying the knot as something that’s coming up, not a scary and expensive life change. Think about it like this: “Hey sweetie, would you ever want to have two houses? I mean like ten years after we’re married or something.” Or you could say: “Do you want to get married in your hometown? The church you grew up in?” The more you weave it into everyday conversations, the less threatening it feels.

Steer Clear of Ultimatums, But Be Clear

It’s never (ever!) a good idea to tell your guy: if we’re not engaged by the time we’ve dated three years, I’m outta here! But, it is okay to be open, honest and clear about your expectations of the relationship. While some people are okay with staying in permanent boyfriend-and-girlfriend land, you’d prefer a ticket to happily ever after – with rings! It’s fine to tell your guy: “Hey, I do want to get married one day and I’d like to share my life with you.” It’s not proposing – it’s just setting your standard.

Show Him How in Love You Are

Sure, you see him every single day. You talk all the time. You couldn’t imagine being with anyone else. And while you probably do tell him that you care, showing him just how important he is can be a key to getting that diamond ring. Leave him little notes in his pocket that he’ll find at work randomly. When he’s super-stressed out, offer to cook – or order in if you’re not the domestic kind – and verbalize how you can’t wait to spend your lives taking care of one another. Sometimes, just saying it can lead to a lifetime of happiness.

Or you could decide to propose to him first! Check out our brand new Propose Too section!

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Comments (4)


  1. Rachel says:

    I guess its the fact that we have a 4 year gap between us, me being the older, is why I think I want it more than he does. He constantly reassures me that he wants it and that if he didn’t he wouldn’t have stayed with me for the last 2 1/2 years but it wont settle in my mind. I’ve reached that age where my biological clock is running in over drive and I’ve seen many friends get engaged, married and have kids by now. That nagging voice in the back of my mind keeps saying “maybe you should move on to a different person” but I love him. I know it will happen eventually but I’m frustrated with the waiting period.

  2. Lady T says:

    Great ideas! I will try some of these when I get Home alone with him Thank you.

  3. shelly says:

    How long do u date before u think it’s to soon to get engaged… Seeing I’ve been married before for 24 1/2 years??

  4. shannon nelson says:

    My boyfriend who says he’s madly in love with me and talks about us and our children, his kids and mind doing things together in the future. He also said I should buy the house beside of him and we could fix it up together. A little confused? He is trying to say yes he may want to live together in the future? Our relationship clicks on every end it’s amazing!! Thoughts???

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