PROPOSAL TIPS

5 Mistakes Men Make When Proposing

 

You would think proposing would be easy. What’s so hard about getting down on one knee and asking, “Will you marry me?” The problem is that proposing is so simple men can’t help but over-think and over-complicate the whole thing until they start doing some very silly things.  If you don’t want to be this guy who hid his fiancee’s engagement ring in a Wendy’s frosty (that she ate), learn from these five mistakes before you pop the question.

Not having a ring

We understand the economy is hitting everyone hard, but you should always have an engagement ring when you propose. No exceptions. If you can’t afford an engagement ring at this time, it’s a good idea is to purchase a more affordable engagement ring and then upgrade the ring later when you’re more financially stable. Find engagement rings bellow $2,000. 

Proposing on an expected holiday

Don’t get us wrong, we love Christmas and Valentine’s Day. But women like things to be special. They don’t want what everyone else has. And what’s so special about being proposed to on the most popular day of the year to be proposed to? That Monday when she goes to work and show off her engagement ring, there will be two or three other women doing the exact same thing. And trust us, she will not like that.

Forgetting her family

We know it’s a little old fashion, but it’s still preferred for men to ask the girlfriend’s family for permission before proposing. You don’t have to necessarily ask her father, but at least let someone in her immediate family know of your intentions of marriage. Here are some more tips on how to ask the father. Also when it comes to the proposal, your friends and family can be amazing assets to help you pick the ring and plan the perfect proposal.

Hiding the ring in weird places

Don’t hide the ring in her food! No, it’s not cute. And yes, she will go to the emergency room. In fact, don’t attempt to hide the ring anywhere unless it’s your pocket. These proposals might seem cute and unique, but they sometimes backfire. An engagement ring is too costly to be tossed carelessly in a glass of wine or baked into a cupcake. Be smart and avoid this mistake.

Telling her you’re “settling”

There is nothing romantic about hearing a long, drawn out speech about how “we’re not getting any younger, so I found you this ring…” Women want to hear that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, not that you’re settling because they twisted your arm about it. If these are your reasons for getting married, maybe you shouldn’t.

Now it’s time to browse for her dream engagement ring!

Does she like expensive things? Everyone is different. Some women are more laid-back while others want the absolute best. If your girlfriend is someone with expensive taste who enjoys designer clothes and isn’t afraid to drop a lot of money on a handbag, then she might expect a pricey ring that’s comparable to the other pricey things that she owns. Check out these beautiful rings for the glamour girl.

Is she plain, more laid back? For some women, an engagement ring will be the only piece of jewelry they will ever wear. These women won’t want a gigantic ring because it will seem too flashy for them. Go for a smaller, less blingy ring for these women.

Is she classic? A lot of women like tradition, and when it comes to engagement rings they expect something classic like the Tiffany setting. The classic ring doesn’t necessarily have to be expensive, but the classic girl definitely expects a nicely sized diamond that sparkles and sits up high.

Does she like large diamonds? Consider what your future bride would prefer: If she cares more about a larger stone than a band, spend a little more on the diamond. If she would prefer a setting that really sparkles, opt for a smaller diamond with a more intricate setting. Browse our engagement ring gallery here to find some inspiration!

Photo credit: Nicole Colwell

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Comments (57)

 

  1. Shelby says:

    My husband asked both my parents. My mom and dad, he met with both of them and asked for there permission. We had been together 3 years and broke up for a year. He proposed 2 months after we got back together. It took a lot of courage to ask my parents (they absolutely love him) but seeing as how we just got back together it was a big deal. I was 22 and he was 25. We never talked about rings but we always talked about the big stuff, kids, finance, location , family involvement , so we knew we were on the same page.

    Back To my main point yes asking a father is old fashion and doesn’t come from a great tradition but it has morphed into something great and unifying between a future father in law and son in law. I am one of three and have two brothers whom I am very close with and he did not ask them but he let them know and he got huge kudos from my family for being a gentlemen. We have been together 7 years and he nailed the proposal, couldn’t have been more perfect.

  2. Kassandra says:

    Someone has some serious daddy issues 😂😂😂😂

  3. Bethany says:

    Also consider if she has a ring in mind. My mother has an heirloom ring that she has been saving for YEARS!

  4. Esther says:

    Hmmm. I dnt think there is any need to tell ur parents

  5. Sunny says:

    I think the most important part is knowing your partner and what she likes and doesn’t like. I disagree with all of the above except for not putting the ring in the food. That really can be dangerous. Everything else on this list is silly.

  6. Jessica says:

    The only comment that is a sane comment is Shelby’s! Anyone who doesn’t want their future fiance to ask their parents for your hand in marriage doesn’t know respect and is probably ashamed to even talk about their parents in a positive way. If your partner is unable to have conversations with your parents then they aren’t going to achieve more than what they already have.
    I want my future husband to ask my parents.

  7. Jane says:

    My ex-fiancé didn’t ask my parents which I didn’t really care about but they was hurt by it and that didn’t help their already shaky relationship.

    But what bothered me was he proposed on Christmas which did take away from making it feel special; he proposed in a restaurant so he gave the ring to the waiter which delivered it under a covered dish with “will you marry me” written in strawberry sauce, what got me was he didn’t say anything nothing nice about why he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, not even will you marry me, he just sat there and I didn’t know what to say. I think I kinda just picked up the ring and he assumed that was a yes.
    But really what got me was later on he told me he proposed to me in a crowded restaurant because he knew that I wouldn’t like it, because he knew I liked a more intimate setting, but he thought because I would be uncomfortable that would make me remember it more. 😒
    Before knowing that I didn’t really care that it wasn’t what I would’ve wanted, because I thought he really tried, but when he said that I did get mad; like I would forget being proposed to, you had to make it awful for me so I’d remember? Idk needless to say the proposal wasn’t the worst thing about our relationship but it did help me to see that he was a jerk. I’m hoping if I ever meet anyone again that it will much better and that he’ll try to make it special and not awkward.

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