It’s a tricky business proposing. It’s especially trick if you intend to propose in front of people– and I’m not just talking about your intended. Here are a few guidelines to follow if you’re thinking about proposing at her work place.

1. Do…Make sure she’d like it. Not everyone likes where they work, and while it would be a sweet gesture to propose at her to give the place more of a positive ambiance, I’m not sure it’d counter-balance all the negativity that may be associated with where she works. If she has a lot of coworker friends, or you two work together, or it’s where you met– that’s the exception to the rule. If there are more positive memories tied to her work over negative, I’d say you’re in the clear.

2. Don’t…Embarrass her. Contrary to the belief that teasing girls makes them like you, she will not appreciate it you purposefully propose at work just to ‘make a scene’, especially in a embarrassing manner. She does not want her proposal to be associated with red cheeks and hiding her face in shame.

3. Do…Let someone else know. It’s super romantic to surprise your lady love with your proposal, but make sure you let someone at work know it’s going to happen. It doesn’t have to be everyone, but it’s probably a good idea to rope in who she’s working with that day or her boss or however it works so you don’t get her into trouble. Does she teach? Include the students! Is she a barista? Have a stranger order a special coffee with a note for her. Whatever it is– make sure you include someone whose in her office in on the game. (This will also guarantee someone catches it on camera!)

4. Don’t…Forget to check in. “Honey, I decided to surprise you at work! Honey?” The most important thing is to make sure you know she’s going to be at work before you show up to propose. Whether it’s checking in by text or by phone, know that she’s going to be there for the big moment. You don’t want a random flashmob to happen without the proposal at the end. Am I right?

Emily

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