This weekend I came across dozens of articles about Salma Hayek’s “second time’s a charm” wedding in Venice. There were tons of noticeable celebs at the event, but one guest that stood out was actor Edward Norton, Salma’s ex. Mr. Norton also came with his current girlfriend and looked to be enjoying the event. The whole display was kind of amazing actually. It really showed how mature and adult everyone was and that not everyone has to leave a relationship with murderous tendencies for the other.

I have noticed even with couples who say they’re friendly and on good terms, there’s still an aura of quiet resentment just under reach. Everyone’s all smiles on the outside, but maybe there’s a tiny voice on the inside whispering, “What could have been…?” But I didn’t get that kind of vibe from Hayek and Norton. They seem to have genuinely moved on, and in such a sophisticated manner, too. If only all couples could be like this, but I know that’s asking a lot. Even if someone is on good terms with an ex, attending his or her wedding could reopen some serious wounds. So, what should you do if you receive the dreaded wedding invitation from an ex? eHow to the rescue! Their advice is mostly common sense, but I liked this tip:

Don’t go to your ex’s wedding if you feel you may create a scene. It is their special day and it’s not right to attend if you don’t have their best interest at heart.

Yes, if you feel like you’re going to punch out the bride, don’t go!

Here’s some more gold advice:

Find someone to escort you. If you show up dateless it may appear to others in attendance that you are still in love with your ex.

I don’t know why anyone would show up dateless to a wedding anyway, but yes, that would be especially pathetic…and awkward.

Oh, and also? Don’t be like this guy:

My ex is getting married. I still love her and want to look really good. I am 6’0″ and weigh about 140. I want to look a little beefier. I have been sick and look too thin but I don’t have time to work out right now.

Sorry, but there are some things not even a snazzy suit can fix.

Would any of you attend an ex’s wedding?