An article at HuffPo yesterday gave a step-by-step rundown on how to get your man to propose by Christmas.

Blogger and relationship coach Jag Carrao said that after nine months of dating, it’s commitment time. Carrao suggests that ladies should start dropping hints at month seven and, if successful, should have a sparkly ring by month nine. She also advises for couples to not move in together before marriage and that couples should avoid seeing each other, keeping weekly contact to just “three times a week.”

There’s lots of great advice in Carrao’s column, including “stop making excuses for him” and to not “bring up marriage too early.” But one thing that didn’t sit well with me was the nine month timeline. If you only been dating your guy for nine months, and you only see him three times a week, and otherwise remain “mysterious” and unavailable for him, is that really enough time to truly know each other? And if, for whatever reason, the relationship spans several years without a proposal, does that warrant kicking a perfectly good relationship under a bus? Thoughts?