Everyone has that difficult relationship that struck them to their core. It’s the one that ripped their heart out until it felt like it couldn’t possibly break any deeper. It’s the person who they thought could be the person but ultimately, hurt them worse than anyone else. Let’s be honest – it’s a doozy to get over.

But we all do it differently. And while you can’t blame your guy for having trust issues or left over fears from his past relationship, you can decide if it’s too much for you to handle or just enough for you to help him through it. The truth is, many guys use terrible ex-girlfriends or dysfunctional relationships as a reason why they can’t move forward with you.

Here’s what’s okay and what’s not in terms of your guy’s ex:

1 – It’s Okay If… he wants to move a little slower and really get to know you.
But, it’s Not Okay If… he’s still saying he wants to go slow and you’ve been dating for a year.

2 – It’s Okay If… he doesn’t want to talk in great length about his past relationships, but still says positive things that show he’s learned something from previous mistakes.
But, it’s Not Okay If… he calls his ex-girlfriend inappropriate names and doesn’t take any blame for any of their problems.

3 – It’s Okay If… he casually mentions his ex, every once in a while, with no emotion behind it.
But, it’s Not Okay If… he brings her up almost as much (or more than!) he talks about how crazy he is about you.

4 – It’s Okay If… he admits that he did once see a future with his ex-girlfriend, even marrying her, but ultimately believes you’re really the right gal.
But, it’s Not Okay If… he openly admits that (yikes!) he’s not over his ex. That’s when you should run – fast! – away.

By Aurora Brown