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Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Which style engagement ring will elongate my finger?

Question: I love the brilliance of the radiant cut; however, I have short fingers. I’ve heard an oval shape solitaire elongates the finger. What kind of engagement ring would give me the best of both worlds?

Answer:
Your solution could be an emerald cut. It has the length of an oval but it’s square like a radiant. Go try some on!

Thursday, June 30th, 2011

My husband buys me rings that are simply ugly! What do I do when I can’t stand to wear the ring?

Q: What to do! My husband buys me rings that are simply ugly. If I say something he is offended. Yet if I say I like this or that in the store or catalog he ignores me or says “HE” don’t like it. I love the fairytale artistic styles. While he likes simple and EVERYTHING round! I CANNOT wear white gold yet he likes it so he buys it. What do I do when I can’t stand to wear the ring?

Answer:
What you need is an unbiased third party to help mediate this situation. Find a close friend who is completely neutral on the matter to help you two discuss the situation. If you don’t have an unbiased friend, try couple therapy. The issue here is that although giving gifts is always rewarding to the person who gives them, it should also be about giving something that the other person likes. For whatever reason, he’s not listening to you. So you need to find an unbiased person he will listen to. Communication is key in a relationship, and it’s important that you get this mended right away.

Friday, May 20th, 2011

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than three years. Why won’t he propose already?

Q: my boyfriend and i are high school sweethearts. we’ve been dating for over three years and he still hasn’t proposed to me we talk about it all the time but why cant he just propose to me already ?

Answer: If it’s bothering you that much, you need to sit down and seriously talk with him about when does he think you two should get married. But keep in mind, it’s not unusual for young couples to stay together for years, sometimes living together, and then decide to get married later.

An excellent example is Prince William and Kate Middleton. They were together for eight years before they got engaged. So being young has its advantages. You still have time to sit back and enjoy your relationship without feeling the rush a lot of people in their late 20s and older feel. After all, patience is a virtue!

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Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two months. When will he propose?

Q: so i been with my bf for 2 months im only 17 , but i really love this guy with everything i got in me and i wanna marry him, of course id never mention that to him , im afraid and yet everyone says im too young but ive never felt any of these feelings before ,. i love him with all my heart. and hes afraid of marriage , thats the part i fear most. what if he never asks me , i mean i know love waits but im soo excited for that day , and no he isnt 17 hes older than me a few years

A: That is so sweet and romantic. Enjoy your relationship but two months, no matter what your age is, is way too soon to really know a person and to get married. So enjoy your great relationship as it is, and see you in a couple of years!

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Monday, May 2nd, 2011

How should I react if my fiance proposed to me while he was drunk?

Q: how should i react if my fiance proposed to me while he was very drunk but in front of his best friends? how should i know if he was sincere?

Answer:
Drunk proposals cannot be taken seriously. Just think of all the times you (or maybe someone you know) have been proposed to by drunk strangers while out on the town. It happens all the time. I guess no one has sat down and told guys that girls don’t like this. However, this doesn’t mean you should rule the proposal out entirely. This could be the beginning of you and him discussing your future together…after the hangover, of course.

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Monday, May 2nd, 2011

Why is it so hard to tell someone you’re in love with them?

Q: why is it so hard to tell someone you r in love with them ?

Answer:
Telling someone you’re in love with them seems hard because it’s a very “weighted” statement. There are so many things an “I love you” can mean. As for telling someone these words, you first need to realize that it’s about trust. There’s also fear, the fear of getting hurt or the fear of commitment. Some younger couples might feel anxious about telling someone they love them because they still might not know what it means themselves. Anyhow, the only way you can know you’re ready is by following your heart. We know that sounds cliche, but it’s true. Your heart will speak the truth, and when you’re ready to tell that special someone how you feel about them it will feel natural and organic.

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Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

How important is the proposal? Should I spend a lot of money on it…or put that money towards a nicer ring?

Question: How important is the proposal?  Should I spend a lot of money on it…or put that money towards a nicer ring? Thanks.

Answer: If you have the money, you should definitely put as much of it as possible toward the ring because the ring will last forever. One thing men must remember is that an engagement ring is an investment. Spending tons of money on the proposal won’t make the proposal any special. What makes a proposal special is how hard you work to make it special.

Try to find something unique from your intimate history together and prepare a proposal she won’t expect. Do something you normally wouldn’t do. That would blow her mind and, depending on what you do, will make her much happier than a proposal that cost a lot of money but had no originality.

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Monday, April 11th, 2011

I need a creative proposal idea for a girlfriend who is kind of shy

Q: I need a creative proposal idea. I don’t want to do something boring, like propose over dinner or something, but my girlfriend is kind of plain/shy and wouldn’t want a big, showy proposal. So what ideas you got?

Answer:
It should definitely be intimate, but I would suggest to not have it in a public place. If you are both outdoorsy types maybe a picnic in a private area would be a good idea. Another idea is to have it at a beach or a clearing in a forest. As long as it’s a place that’s private and means something to the both of you, then it would be the perfect proposal location.

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Thursday, March 24th, 2011

Hi, Should I ask my girlfriend what she wants or should I just guess? She doesn’t like surprises

Answer: Don’t guess! An engagement ring is a costly investment that shouldn’t be decided with a haphazard decision. Since your girlfriend doesn’t like surprises, this actually makes your job a lot easier. Take her to a jewelry store and let her show you the types of engagement rings she likes. You can either A.) purchase the ring right then and there, or B.) or come back and purchase the ring when she’s not there.

Another solution is to buy the diamond first, and then after the proposal you two can pick out the ring setting together. Trust me, you have it easy. Most women love surprises!

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