Many people are fixated on the idea of a “home”. I mean, just think about Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz, right? Classic example! Still, as we grow older and perhaps come from broken homes or messy backgrounds (or not!), we can have this fear of moving forward and having a true home of our own. On the other end of that, we can be SO READY to have a “home” where we can plant our roots and start a family.

Because this is such a big part of being married to many women, whether it’s a house, apartment, or what have you– she wants to know that you’re going to provide her not only with a happy marriage, but a happy home. So how do you bring that across in your proposal? Here are three ideas!

1. Build a Birdhouse. Make your lady a birdhouse and send it to her as a gift, or bring it to her as a gift. Let the birdhouse have the ability to be opened, whether by a door or the roof, and have the ring waiting inside. When you propose, make her the promise that you will provide for her– including a place she will always be able to call home.

2. Drive through some neighborhoods.  My husband, when we were dating, used to just take me driving through neighborhoods. We’d scout out houses and say what we liked about them and what we would want to change and so forth. It was, and still is, one of my favorite things to do. The idea that we would have a house all to ourselves was not daunting at all– because I knew he’d be there. So take her driving and find a near by park in one of the neighborhoods you found a house you both loved. Sit and talk about what you’d like to fill that house with, and then pull out the ring and propose, promising her that some day you guys will make it happen.

3.  Give her a key. If you guys have already talked about who would move in where if you were to take that step, make it happen. Make a copy of a key (whether to her place or yours), and when it’s ready attach the engagement ring to it as a “house warming gift”. If you’re moving into her place, you can still tell her you got something. You don’t have to give her the real key. You can go to a thrift shop or antique store and odds are they’ll have some kind of skeleton key you could buy to present to her with the ring.

Emily

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