If you’re a single dad about to make the jump and propose, you may have a few questions in your mind. For example, how is this going to change your family dynamic? Your kid(s) have already met her, they approve, and everything will get into a new routine, but how do you continue to include them as you’re getting ready to tie the knot?

Here are three proposal ideas involving your kids (and/or hers) for Father’s Day.

1. Family Cookout. There’s nothing like grilling out for Father’s Day. If you ask me, it’s one of the best ways to celebrate. Some dads may want to take the day off (as if that’s possible), but others like to show off their skills and fire up the grill. Plan a family cookout and let her know just how important she is to making things work these days, and how thankful you are for her love and support. Have your kids (and/or hers) wear special aprons/hats that say, “Will you marry me?” on them. If you want to go for something more subtle, plan a moment that evening where they can have signs instead.

2. Photo booth fun. If a woman tells you she doesn’t like pictures, she’s lying. Some may not actually like to be in the pictures, but we all love pictures of our sweeties and kids. Take some silly pictures with your kids or just of your kids and present them to her as a gift. Sure, it’s Father’s Day, but tell her you wanted to recognize how you’re a better man/parent because of her. The pictures or the frame can say, “Will You Marry Me?” or, you know, something along those lines.

3. Let your kids plan it. This may be kind of hazardous, but if you have older children and you’re planning on changing your family, it’s just as important to let them know they’re not being sacrificed for your happiness in all of this. It may be hard for them to keep a secret, so tell them just a couple days in advance and tell them you’d like them to help you propose, then get to work. Letting them plan this and be a big role in the moment shows them, and your significant other, just what family really means.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck, and Happy Father’s Day (come June, of course)!

Emily