This past Sunday on The Real Housewives of Atlanta, one of the housewives got a surprise proposal. Cynthia, the newbie of the show, had been vocal about her apprehension to get married and engaged to her boyfriend, club manager Peter. Cynthia told Peter a few episodes ago that if they did get married she didn’t want the proposal to be a surprise (because she hated surprises) and she wanted a ring. So, what did Peter do? He invited friends over to his house to help set up the proposal. Then, once Cynthia got home, everyone surprised her (like a surprise party, but worse), and then Peter proposed.

Instead of the usual waterworks that accompany a proposal, Cynthia looked awkward, and at one point Peter said, “You’re not going to run away, are you?” Such romantic words! Cynthia later confessed in her interview that she would have preferred a more intimate proposal. Peter, however, disagreed and said he wanted to do things his way. Well, this marriage is starting off swimmingly.

Everything that took place on the show are things you do not want to do in a proposal. If you want your friends to help set up the proposal, that’s fine, but the friends must leave before the actual proposal (you can bring them back to celebrate when you’re done). Plus, if you know your partner is shy and wouldn’t like a public proposal, you definitely shouldn’t force a public proposal on her.

Having some problems embedding the video, so check out a video of the proposal here.