Kayne West and Why Women Like Jerks

 
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Lately it seems like every major media outlet is ripping apart Kayne West and his ego-centric display at Sunday’s MTV Video Music Awards. But West’s award show antics are nothing new, and the guy has a track record for acting like a spoiled brat at every major award show.

But why has this kind of behavior gone on for so long unpunished? Obviously Kayne crossed the line this time (you do NOT mess with little, blonde country singers), but what is it about cocky men that people find endearing? People are a lot quicker to pardon jerk-ish behavior from men then they would from women. And then there’s the stereotype that single women can’t help drifting into the arms of every jerk that crosses their path. Why is that? Why do we like jerks?

A column written at Yahoo! Personals hit the nail on the head:

Here’s how the jerk spell works: we meet the jerk and in some twisted way are seduced by his confidence, charm, and passion. We don’t see these as the disguises they are: confidence is really arrogance, charm comes from him being a player, and his passion is being the center of his own universe.

When it comes to the topic of relationships I always come across nice guys whining about how all girls want bad boys, which was something I never quite understood or believed in. I knew that I would never intentionally chase after a guy who didn’t treat me well, but I noticed ever so often there’s a lust factor involved when it comes to men who are just seriously intolerable. It’s not something I can put into words eloquently enough (well, at least not today), but it’s something that irks and fascinates me at the same time. I guess it must be the thrill of the challenge, to catch and tame a guy by being the right girl for him.

But what about those in relationships who can’t separate lust/love and are carelessly waltzing into the arms of one jerk-ish boyfriend to the other? It’s weirdly frustrating, and yet it’s something I see a lot of my friends doing. I just wish these couples, especially if they’re in a serious, long-term relationship can detect the warning signs early before walking down the aisle.

But in the meantime, hopefully Kayne’s antics will stop people from encouraging similar jerk-ish behavior. Cockiness is not sexy, and yet it continues to be a behavior that people intentionally overlook. What do you guys think about women liking jerks?

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  1. Tina T says:

    I do think that a lot of women mistake arrogance for confidence and to compound that they mistake “nice guys” for “pushovers.” The problem is by the time they discover this the nice guys are all taken. Not me, I grabbed my nice guy right away, I like to be treated well.

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