From news.com.au
The Huffington Post has a photo slideshow of famous tall woman/short man Hollywood couples. Included in the feature is Mick Jagger and designer L’Wren Scott, Janet Jackson and Jermaine Dupree, and Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes. The feature ignites the age-old question: Would you ever date a guy shorter than you?
The whole stigma of short men seems to come from years of outdated advice that gets passed along to women since they were young girls. When you start dating men you have to look for these key things: They have to be slightly older than you, they have to be taller/larger than you, and they can’t be more attractive than you. So whenever someone finds themselves in a situation that goes against the nifty check list, suddenly there’s a sense of uneasiness.
My dad used to always make it a big deal that he’s two years younger than my mom. Two! “Your mother was robbing the cradle,” he used to joke (much to my mother’s annoyance). But is it really that big of a deal? I mean, so what?
Note: I tried looking for some tall woman/short man wedding photos and couldn’t find any. Hmph!
Is there anyone here in a relationship like this or similar?
I always find it interesting that a lot of the men that are the Hollywood heartthrobs are on the short side. I’m short, so my height was never an issue, but I have several tall friends who refuse to date men shorter than they are. My tall friends that love to wear heels won’t even date men that are their height or only slightly taller. It is an old fashioned notion that the man should be taller, but this notion still seems to be going strong.
When Iwas twenty I did not get near a girl even an inch taler. Now I think that upto six inches taller is acceptable and really sexy.
I’m 5’2 and I am a guy.. I’m 20. so I thank my parents every day for my shortness. I wonder what my wedding pictures will be like in the far future. Maybe I’ll just go all out and find a 6’2 girl. I don’t think I’ve ever cared about being short until recently. kinda sucks, but o well, might as well learn to love it
I’m 5’11” and my boyfriend of two years is 5’7″, before I met him I would never have even considered a first date with someone shorter than me. When we met, we were both sitting down, and the first time we hung out after that, I was so surprised that I hadnt noticed his height the night we met. We developed a deep friendship very quickly and started dating after about two months. I cant believe I was ever so shallow to think I could rule out a relationship with someone based off of something as superficial as height. Our height difference has never been an issue in the two years we’ve been together and it is by far the strongest and most serious relationship I have ever been in. It’s super cliche but true that what’s most important is on the inside.
I’m about 2 inches taller then my current boyfriend. He’s sweet and kind to me and the sex is great. Everything is better then with any taller men I’ve dated. If I had passed him up because of his height, I would have missed out. I would not change a thing about him, he is 10 times the man of any tall men I have known. If two people click what difference does it make who’s taller then who.
I am in love with my man… well he doesn’t know that yet, but I am, and he is five inches shorter than me. I am 5’10.5 and he has to look up to kiss me! We have known each other since we were 13, he lived up the street from me and was in a band. He was a little (haha) punk rock boy growing up. Now he’s practically a pro snowboarder and still heavily involved in the music scene. He has become a man, and more of a man than any tall guy that I’ve ever been with. When I first began seeing him I was a litttle self conscious, for him and I. But he’s such an amazing lover and has admitted to being infatuated with me since we were young. He knew even then that he deserved me and that his height was of no importance.
I do agree with the notion that maybe short guys haven’t dated as much due to lack of height and that’s why they tend to treat women better. However, my man hasn’t had any problems dating (taller women even) and holds more non-superficial confidence than I can imagine. I have always prided myself on being a very tall and beautiful woman yet I have never found a man who can truly love me. My short man has finally done just that
When he holds me as we walk down the street he knows that I can be with a taller guy, but that they can’t possibly give me what he does. It’s such a turn on. He’ll say, “those guys just totally checked you out. I don’t blame ’em,” with a smile. Then I’ll grab his hand and he’ll lean up and kiss me with the most amazing kiss I’ve ever had in my life.
What if my girl is my soul mate and she is taller then me: should I be concerned that she might find a guy taller?
Dear Frened,
You are very luck to get 6′-2″ tall girl. This is the advantage for you. You can marry this tall Girl. Height is not matter in love. The tall girl gave the tall children & you family height problem is souled.
sc sharma
Variety is the spice of life. Nothing can be more exciting. I earnestly look forward to the like.
I’m a guy of average height 5’10”. I’ve always found women taller than me turn me on, while shorter than me don’t. Even ‘just’ 5’11” or 6′ can get me going. My favourite height is 6’3”-6’5”. For me its about respecting women anyhow, and being strong enough as a male to love and respect a woman for what she is. I’ve met one or two women socially who were between 6’3” and6′ 5”; they were and are very lovely ladies. I enjoy their height, I enjoy looking up to them and them looking down at me. I get a sexual thrill out of it. Its wonderful!
And yet one told me how back in her homeland she was treated as a ‘monster’ and threatened by scared little men, because they felt intimidated by her height. She was so excited that I liked her, she almost wanted to marry me there and then. I had to tell her my age (somewhat older) and my responsibilities, she realised she had to look elsewhere. But she had appreciated how I was with her. One day I will find my 6’3” – 6’5” lady and we will be together for the best reasons, her height and our love, not necessarily in that order…
Jessie, I loved your story. especially; “Then I’ll grab his hand and he’ll lean up and kiss me with the most amazing kiss I’ve ever had in my life”.
Awesome…
Shorter man here, I am 5’5. I am a younger fella. I am sure gals pass up dating me because of height. However, over a year with a wonderful gal who makes my heart beat right out of my chest and I could care less. I actually find a very positive aspect of being short, superficial women tend to not give me a chance. I am currently dating a gal that is not only 4″ taller than me, but also 8 years my senior, far more attractive and makes more money than myself. She has an amazing soul, I feel extremely fortunate to have found her. She is my perfect match.
This height thing is one that I have never quite understood. This is probably because I’ve always been the shortest kid in every class I’ve ever been in. My entire family has always been short. But I’ve also always been one of the smarter kids in the class. Always THE best artist in the class. One of the more aggressive kids in the class. One of the best athletes in the class (with MVP trophies to prove it) I could always kick most of the guys in the class ass, AND I was usually able to attract hotter women with less effort. As a result I just had natural and genuine (not feigned) confidence and felt that I was just naturally supposed to be better than most people at most things that I did.
My adult life hasn’t been any different. Being an ex wrestling state champion and a martial artist instructor who has trained with some of the best in the world (Gracies, Ruas; Parker; Inosantos; etc.) and authored several books on self-defense based on life experience. I speak professionally, am expert in a number of areas and am a MENSA member. I also carry myself with a natural confidence that naturally attracts women and intimidates some men.
I’m happily married to an extremely beautiful woman who is about 2 inches shorter than me …and 20 years older and could have had plenty of tall men if that’s what she wanted. I’ve always dated very beautiful, smart, intelligent, classy and sexy women and dating, finding, meeting women has NEVER been a problem for me.
Before getting married I dated, for several years, a girl who is the niece of a very famous actor/comedian who had lots of rich and tall friends/associates/colleagues who tried to get her because she was so beautiful …but NONE of them could do it or take her away from me because she was in love with me and we had a deep and genuine friendship.
Bottom line is this… The obsession with height that many many tall people seem to have ….and also many many short people is astounding to me. Far too many people use their height as an excuse for their inadequacies or their failures. Also, far too many tall people just assume that they are intimidating or will naturally be perceived well when it’s not necessarily true. While single, the tallest girl I ever dated was 6’01” without heels. My tallest actual girlfriend was 5’10” beautiful and much younger than myself and crazy about me. (Could have orgasms just from sitting next to me watching TV with no sexual contact) but I just couldn’t take her seriously because she was just too tall. (Yes …shallow I’ll admit …but true.)
So my advice to all is …do a reality check. There are many more things going on than just your height.
By the way …I am extremely short for a man at just 5’3″ tall …okay… perhaps 5’4″ but that’s it.
I suppose i should have known what to expect has i was growing up.Having a mum who is 4’10 and a dad who is 5’2 we had no chance of having a decent height.I am 22 now and my height is just under 5’0 and i am a guy.My 17 year old sister is 5’2 and i am hoping she doesnt grow anymore.Lastly is my 25 year old brother Sam and he is only 4’10.It seem like me and my brother has got our mum’s height and our sister is bang on with dad’s height.So far i have managed a few relationships that seem to last about 6mths to a year.I am at the moment with Jessica who works with me and lucky for her she is 5’8.We on very well but there can be guys at work who make snide remarks about me being with her.Some even tell her she could do better than me.So nothing seems to be putting her off at this moment.I have seen her family and her mum is 5’4 and her dad is 6’2.I was however surpised to see her younger brother and sister who were a good 6/7 inches taller than me.I think her dad has mentioned if my height bothers her but she says everything is good.So i am hoping everything works out okay between us.My poor brother Sam is really struggling to find a woman i just think he is trying too hard.I have even been with him to clubs and some women think he is okay to talk to but then knock him back.He did think he would stand more chance with a woman abit taller than him but it all turns out the same they always say that if he was taller he would be okay.I once caught him wearing lifts in his shoes but it was too painful.So he accepts it now and hopefully someone will take a chance on him.
Me i still have to look up and talk to everyone on a daily basis and when i am standing talking to workmates they think it is funny resting their elbow on my head.Being the shortest guy in the office is a pain i dont like it has the nearest guy to my height is 5’7.I do however have a couple of woman who are around my height so when i do get fed up i take time out chatting to them.For some reason they feel that they should still be mothering me and looking out for me.I just laugh about it especially when it annoys the other guys.
I am really a short guy with height 148cm in addition i am too thin which cause me cry most of my life. i scare to be in public and most of the times i am just exploring internet. i have told to my internet girlfriends that i am a tall man thus i can never meet them out. my problems of shortness never finish. from highschool started, when classmate teased me. at university it was worth. i was the shortest in addition of girls and girls and boys laugh me all the time.
One thing I noticed today, though I’ve probably been aware for a while. When men are tall, their ego is tall, big huge; ‘I’m the big man around here, I’m taller than anyone else and I’m in charge, my ego is towering above you for all to see, etc. etc.’.
When a woman is 6’3 -6’9 the ego is less in evidence.
Men seem to feel they have to dominate physically to control, especially if the voice matches the height. So when a tall man sees a tall woman either equal to or -God forbid-taller than him, he gets so terribly deflated, or scared of losing his ego domination, or worst of all, he has to LOOK UP to a woman… Ego squashing situation.
As soon as ego man has to ‘look up’ to taller woman, he’s thinking, is she my lover to be, or will she be my mother…? Well he outgrew his mother years ago, or at least his body and his ego did, and now she the taller woman is about to put him back ‘under her’,
or so he f e a r s.
And so he can’t make up his mind which she is; do I protect her or does she protect me…? Do I carry her or does she carry me? The fragile male ego enjoys the act of protecting the shorter woman, the mother it outgrew many years ago, but does it really want to be protected and nurtured and played with by the taller woman (potential)lover/mother? Usually not.
Finally, has anyone noticed, how this issue has only recently become a ‘problem’? In the last generation say since the 1990s, we seem to have an explosion of 6′-6’8 young ladies, compared to past grnerations, esp. in the USA and Europe. Women are becoming bigger and stronger, and men as a rule can’t handle this sudden invasion oftheir physical head/ego space. So its either ‘wow’ or ‘you big bitch’.
Its the young men we have to educate (before they’ve outgrown their mothers) to accepting this new reality, especially at high schools. And as I’ve tried to show not very well above, the height acceptance or not is very fundamental to the male ego and to how men and women will get on in future.
I love tall women. I would like to find one. Maybe I never will but one never knows
Dick.
I am a guy around 5 9” and my girl friend is around 5”7… anyway, if my girl friend was taller than me slightly, i would still not care. do we choose our parthner depending on their hight our their character and other things.
Height i a problem only when you think what other peopel will think. A guy is always stronger than a women, doesnt matter how much shorther they are from their pal. Shothers guys are generally most succesfull in life.. All genious such as Adolf hitleri, Ataturk, Einstein , Mosollini and michael jackson, elvis were all short guıys so my theases is shorter guys have more pation and they are working harder to get somewhere. OR their brain can control their body easily 😛 anyway hehe.
i hope being you’r men….need your help for that…..
i forgot i’m a 5’3″ guy from algeria..my email tinariky@aol.fr
Yea im about to meet a gurl which is taller than me by 3 inch or so. She coming down to see me. I told her i was short. I never thought i would like her because my chance with a tall gurl is slim. I jutt told her likes go with the flow. I see it from there. I never thought about being with a tall gurl but had if she looks fine and with a great personality. Im thinking why let that pass up. im 5.2 and i think she is 5’5 any body see a big problem here?
Height is not a problem, it’s not having height that’s the
problem. As a male 5’2″ and even with good looks maybe an older woman will deal with my excessive lack
of height. I have had an older woman off and on who is
6’1″ and I am right at boob level and it’s awkward intimidating and totally removes any manhood inspite of her telling me how i am a real turn on for her.
Maybe after i’m with her and then leave it seems i always come in contact with the reality of I am just
flat out fucking short and it sucks.
I was told about this blog after I indicated that i was not comfortable having a relationship with a much taller
woman. I am a male 5’7″ and seeing a very beautiful
woman who is over 6’0 tall insists upon wearing hi heels
and no question it’s me and my emotions are so mixed.
She’s beautiful and I love her and then when we are together and the height difference kicks in
and it’s a level of uncomfort beyond description.
The other day while walking past and looking in
some store windows the reflection of us together,
i just realized how small i looked and when i mentioned
that she thought we looked great together.
I no longer can handle being below eye and lip level
any longer.
I am a goodlooking guy 5’6″ and at times the remarks that taller women make one would think I had a disease
other than lack of height. If for a minute any of you long drinks of water think I would prefer to be at least eye level or above your crazy. I am sick of being on my
tip toes to reach your lips or even for a peck on your neck and worse when you kick off those damn high heels and I still come under your lips/jaw. It sucks to be a short man today.